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Friday, March 19, 2010 Y

I read my cousin blog, who talked about my Sis' blog, then saw FB status and went to my own blog.. Alot of things happened consecutively and suddenly I wanted to write about something.

Solitude - What my sis blogged about. Being in solitude is good at certain parts of the day, or at certain moments when you just want to be away from all the hussle and bustle and just take a step back into your own world. A world where it's all quiet. An escape. I like to be alone, it's good to just enjoy a cup of coffee with a good book and some light music alone..

Then my mind turned to my cousin's blog about relationship.. And solitude wasn't that a good thing. Sure, in any relationship there has to be solitude, an alone time even away from your love... But it can get lonely sometimes, when you're down, when you're alone, when you're happy etc. It's not good to be in solitary too much when in a relationship until the point you don't even feel like you're in a relationship. Now that is terrible..

Then came the words "trust" and "mistrust" which was mentioned. My cousin was right.. All kinds of relationship started with mutual trust, and end with mutual mistrust. It's one of the most fundamental aspect to forming relationship - Trust. However, it's just as fragile as glass, and invisible to touch.

There is a thin line between trust and mistrust, and how do we really trust someone? That is a question that only you can answer. Follow your heart. People may think that you shouldn't trust a particular someone that much, but as long as you know it and do, it doesnt matter how people think, because they don't know the person like you do. When you reach out to trust that person, that person is doing the same thing to you. It's unfair to doubt that person, especially if that person means no harm at all. If that's the case, why trust in the first place?

I've seen cases where trust turned into backstabbing... Sad but not necessarily impossible. There are people like this, and this happens because people take advantage of the trust and turned it against the others. Once that happens, mistrust surfaced and "bang" goes that relationship.

I've got no idea how to solve these... It's all matters of our hearts. Trust a person or don't trust a person is only a decision away. What matters is truly how you feel about reaching out to build that trust with the other person.

Another part of my cousin's blog was on feelings in a relationship. And it made me think... Yep, it is important in relationships.. In this case I'm talking about boy-girl/man-woman relationship. Feeling IS important, and sometimes because the feeling is there, no matter what far you are away, how lonely you feel, how angry you feel, how neglected you feel or what happened or did not happened etc... (I lost my thought)... You still know that the person you care about is still around. It can spice up conversations, spice up your life, spice up the love, make you feel warm and fuzzy and make you pissed (sometimes).. Hahahahaha, it's complicated.

I've seen a show where this character says, "Sometimes it's nice to worry for the person you love, or even be angry at that person. Because then you're sure that you still have feelings for this person, and that you care enough to worry for him/her or be angry for what he/she did or say or didn't do or didn't say." (Okay, I added a little bit here and there myself.. but that's the general idea...)

And feelings never die.. When you love somebody, you have feelings for that person. You worry for him/her, you care about his/her day and life, you want to be there with him/her. The feeling between a couple dies when neither no longer loves the other... When you don't feel exceptionally happy to see the person, or when you're together you don't see it as a time of blessing... That there's nothing special anymore.

I count my blessings... that the feeling is still so strong after so long... And to know that it's strong on both ends, makes everything bad better :))

Y The Lady @
10:54 PM